Friday, January 29, 2016
The Love Investment
Marriage seems to be one thing we really struggle with as a whole society. Today about half of all marriages end in divorce, so it's safe to say that we need to do something differently in the future if we want these statistics to change. I personally believe that we have a good chance at making our marriages last if we commit to doing the work needed and are interested in developing the tools we need to love our spouse well.
One thing my husband and I decided to do to "invest in our marriage" from the start was to read a book about marriage each year. During the year when we were engaged we read a couple of different books about building a healthy marriage and nowadays we read one book a year. The book we chose for 2016 is called: "The First Five Years-Make the love investment that lasts a lifetime" by Bill and Pam Farrel.
Bill and Pam Farrel write in the book that 50% of all divorces happen within the first seven years of marriage, 20% of the divorces happen within the first five years of marriage. In the beginning of a marriage we develop routines, habits and tools that will either make the love last or that will break the love. Bill and Pam Farrel write:
"The patterns you develop now-the ways you choose to view and treat each other, handle conflict and crisis-form the foundation of your life together. You can intentionally build a relationship that can withstand any challenge."